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4 Reasons Why Other People’s Opinions Of You Don’t Matter

Updated: Nov 23, 2021


“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” — Marcus Aurelius


People will talk. They habitually have. And they always will. No matter what you do or say, how you behave, the way you walk or dress, how you act, or the decisions you make, will always be scrutinized by others. It’s the nature of the masses. Like the herd of lions swooping in for the kill, they prey on the weak, looking for those they can taunt and torment. And it harasses us. We allow other people’s opinions do not only to hurt us but oftentimes, to define us.


But it doesn’t matter what other people think of you. It doesn’t matter what other people say about you behind closed doors or even right in front of your face. Their opinions have no basis in defining what you’re all about. They aren’t the truth. They have no purpose other than to hurt or harm you. There is no rhyme or reason beyond making the other person feel superior to you in some way or another and the beauty of this kind of taunting opinion is these people who are like this are actually self-loathing and must try and make themselves feel superior when they actually are not, no decent human being hurts another person full stop.


Four reasons why their opinions just do not matter.


#1 — People will always find someone to talk about


The fact of the matter is that people will always find something or someone to talk about. They will always convey their opinions and cast out those whom they feel are weak, misfits or simply don’t “fit in” with others because they’re too fat, too skinny, too dark, too white, too religious, too fanatical, too smart, too dumb, or whatever have you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter. People will always find someone to talk to.



#2 — Your self-worth isn’t defined by an approval rating


No matter what the naysayers and the purveyors of negativity around you might say, your self-worth isn’t defined by an approval rating. There’s no objective rating scale that allows another person to judge you. They don’t know what you’ve been through. They don’t know your story, your trials, your tribulations, or the path you’ve walked through the shadow of the valley of death. No, it simply doesn’t work that way.


However, too often, we do define our self-worth by an approval rating. We do allow what others say or think about us to influence how we feel about ourselves. The happiness barometer is often influenced by the he-said-she-said pipeline. That grapevine makes it to us in some way or another, whether electronically or verbally, and we feel the effects of that, similar to a ground-altering earthquake


Just learn to say, your perception of me is none of my business, I am me and I am happy with the way the creator created me to be, I won't define whom I was born to be based upon your opinion when the creator is and always will be higher than your opinion.



#3 — They don’t know your journey, where you’ve been, or where you’re heading


I recall a powerful story that I once heard about a man who was on a subway. He sat there on the subway, watching as a father was completely neglecting his three children. Two small boys and a little girl were simply out of control, and he was oblivious to the fact. He looked at the man in disdain. How could he ignore his children? How could he allow them to disrupt the subway ride for other passengers? Passengers who were too nice or to ambivalent to say anything.


Eventually, the man had stirred in his own thoughts enough. He came to the end of his proverbial rope. He had to say something. Gripped with anger, he approached the father, asking him why he wasn’t controlling his children. The man, looking back at him with a sorry face, apologized profusely. ‘I know. I’m sorry. I guess I should do something, shouldn’t I?’ he asked. He fell silent for a moment and looked out the window of the moving subway car, towards the blackness on the other side, his eyes glazing over.


After a pause, he told the man what had happened. His wife had just died of cancer. They were coming back from the hospital. He was wondering what he was going to tell his kids or how he was going to explain it to them that their mother was gone forever. A solitary tear fell down the side of his face as the other passengers looked on in sorrow. ‘I’m sorry,’ said the man to the father. ‘I had no idea.’



#4 — Trust your intuition and who you are deep down inside


One reason why you absolutely shouldn’t listen to the opinion of other people is that you should trust your intuition. You should trust who you are and why you’re doing the things that you’re doing. The most successful people in the world were ridiculed and shamed the most times for their dreams. How much do you think they were made fun of and scoffed at after failing over and over again?