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4 Reasons Why Other People’s Opinions Of You Don’t Matter

Updated: Jan 3, 2023

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” — Marcus Aurelius

People will talk, they habitually have and they always will. No matter what you do or say, how you behave, the way you walk or dress, how you act, or the decisions you make, will always be scrutinized by others. It’s the nature of the masses. Like the herd of lions swooping in for the kill, they prey on the weak, looking for those they can taunt and torment and it harasses us physically within our body and within our minds, We allow it. and more than often we allow other people’s opinions to not only hurt us but oftentimes, to define us. yet the funny thing is they are not us and we are not them. No one can define who we are as individuals, only we can for ourselves, becuase only we know who we are 100%.

It really doesn’t matter what other people think of you. It doesn’t matter what other people say about you behind closed doors or even right in front of your face. Their opinions have no basis in defining what you’re all about. There opinions aren’t even the truth. They have no purpose other than to hurt or harm you. There is no rhyme or reason beyond making the other person feel superior to you in some way or another and the beauty of this kind of taunting opinion is these people who are like this are actually self-loathing and must try and make themselves feel superior when they actually are not, no decent human being hurts another person full stop.

In my case I have been taunted in many ways and forms, I allow them to think they are getting to me, because I cannot be bothered wasting my positive energy on such negative energy, I just refuse to play their games of egoic self- insecurity transferred onto another to belittle them in order to feel superior. remember if someone rubbished you and try's to pull you down, it only means they must reach above themselves to pull you down, therefore you are above them

Four reasons why their opinions just do not matter.

#1 — People will always find someone to talk about

The fact of the matter is that people will always find something or someone to talk about. They will always convey their opinions and cast out those whom they feel are weak, misfits or simply don’t “fit in” with others because they’re too fat, too skinny, too dark, too white, too religious, too fanatical, too smart, too dumb, or whatever have you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter. People will always find someone to talk to.

#2 — Your self-worth isn’t defined by an approval rating

No matter what the naysayers and the purveyors of negativity around you might say, your self-worth isn’t defined by an approval rating. There’s no objective rating scale that allows another person to judge you. They don’t know what you’ve been through. They don’t know your story, your trials, your tribulations, or the path you’ve walked through the shadow of the valley of death. No, it simply doesn’t work that way.

However, too often, we do define our self-worth by an approval rating. We do allow what others say or think about us to influence how we feel about ourselves. The happiness barometer is often influenced by the he-said-she-said pipeline. That grapevine makes it to us in some way or another, whether electronically or verbally, and we feel the effects of that, similar to a ground-altering earthquake

Just learn to say, your perception of me is none of my business, I am me and I am happy with the way the creator created me to be, I won't define whom I was born to be based upon your opinion when the creator is and always will be higher than your opinion.

#3 — They don’t know your journey, where you’ve been, or where you’re heading

I recall a powerful story that I once heard about a man who was on a subway. He sat there on the subway, watching as a father was completely neglecting his three children. Two small boys and a little girl were simply out of control, and he was oblivious to the fact. He looked at the man in disdain. How could he ignore his children? How could he allow them to disrupt the subway ride for other passengers? Passengers who were too nice or to ambivalent to say anything.

Eventually, the man had stirred in his own thoughts enough. He came to the end of his proverbial rope. He had to say something. Gripped with anger, he approached the father, asking him why he wasn’t controlling his children. The man, looking back at him with a sorry face, apologized profusely. ‘I know. I’m sorry. I guess I should do something, shouldn’t I?’ he asked. He fell silent for a moment and looked out the window of the moving subway car, towards the blackness on the other side, his eyes glazing over.

After a pause, he told the man what had happened. His wife had just died of cancer. They were coming back from the hospital. He was wondering what he was going to tell his kids or how he was going to explain it to them that their mother was gone forever. A solitary tear fell down the side of his face as the other passengers looked on in sorrow. ‘I’m sorry,’ said the man to the father. ‘I had no idea.’

#4 — Trust your intuition and who you are deep down inside

One reason why you absolutely shouldn’t listen to the opinion of other people is that you should trust your intuition. You should trust who you are and why you’re doing the things that you’re doing. The most successful people in the world were ridiculed and shamed the most times for their dreams. How much do you think they were made fun of and scoffed at after failing over and over again?

The point is that you have to do what’s right for you, and not base that decision on what other people think about you or what you’re doing. Nobody is perfect. Nobody has the right to declare you unfit or unworthy of something just because of a flaw or because you’re different than others. As long as you’re doing the right things in this world with the right motivations, it doesn’t matter what other people’s opinions are of you.

Keep light of the fact that many before you were judged, and many after you will continue to be judged. It will likely always be this way. That’s the nature of a diverse society. We aren’t all the same. And considering that fact, you shouldn’t allow those opinions to affect you. At the end of the day, when we come to the end of this life, none of that will matter. What will matter will be our experiences and what value we brought to this world, not other people’s opinions of us.

Taking the High Road is always the better direction to take after all God placed us on earth to thrive not survive, we humans are meant to thrive. We were made to uplift others and make them feel good about themselves. Especially when they’re trying to do the right thing in life and help their families, and add value to the world. No matter what anyone else says or thinks about you, taking the high road is always a better choice. Turn the other cheek, even if they spite you on both sides of the face.

There’s this universal oneness that binds us all. We are all the product of the same original energy in the universe produced nearly 14 billion + years ago. Somehow, one way or another, we wound up in these human bodies, as conscious and aware beings. And that energy is important. That energy dictates the sway and direction of your life. When channeled properly, it can be an explosive power, one to create tremendous positivity in this world and in your life.

Be the unique you, shine bright with your unique fingerprints, your unique face and your unique whole being, no one in your unique way so love you and your opinions first over anyone else's opinions.

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